Facts About Spiritual Direction

Why Spiritual Direction/Companionship?

Anyone longing to deepen their relationship with the Divine, Great Spirit, God, or the sense of being part of something greater can benefit from meeting with someone who is willing to walk the journey with them. Spiritual Direction offers a companion who listens deeply, honors your unfolding story, and supports you in cultivating spiritual practices that nurture everyday living and overall spiritual wellness.

Spiritual Direction is not therapy, counseling, or pastoral counseling. It is a sacred, reflective space focused on presence, meaning, and connection with the Holy.

What Does A Spiritual Direction Session Consist Of?

Spiritual direction is the practice of accompanying people as they seek to deepen their relationship with the Divine — God, Allah, Great Mystery, Higher Power, or whatever name speaks to their experience — and as they grow in their own spirituality, faith, or questions. It is a space for exploring meaning, noticing the sacred in everyday life, and tending to the movements of the soul.

In a session, the person seeking direction shares stories of their encounters with the Holy, moments of clarity or struggle, or the ways they are cultivating a life attuned to spiritual things. The director listens deeply, offers presence rather than answers, and asks gentle, spacious questions that support reflection, expansion, and spiritual growth.

How Do I Find A Spiritual Director?

Spiritual Directors International (SDI) is a global organization dedicated to supporting and resourcing those who offer spiritual direction. Based in Seattle, SDI maintains a comprehensive database of spiritual directors and companions across the country. You can explore their listings here:
https://www.sdicompanions.org/find-a-spiritual-director-companion/

You may also wish to inquire within your own faith community to see if someone has training in Spiritual Direction or Spiritual Companionship. Many congregations, retreat centers, and interfaith organizations have trained directors who may not appear in national directories.

How Often Does One Go For Spiritual Direction and How Long Is A Session?

The rhythm of meeting is something you and your spiritual director can discern together during the initial orientation meeting. Many people find that meeting once a month offers a steady, supportive cadence for reflection and spiritual growth.

A regular spiritual direction session typically lasts about one hour, though it may extend a bit longer as needed. Spiritual direction moves in Kairos time rather than Chronos time—attentive to the sacred moment rather than the clock. The initial orientation meeting may also be scheduled for more than an hour to allow space for introductions, questions, and discernment.

How Are Spiritual Directors Trained?

Many programs across the country offer formation and education for spiritual directors, including Tacheria Interfaith School for Spiritual Direction in Tucson and Wisdom’s Way Interfaith School in Phoenix. Most programs provide a certificate of completion for spiritual direction training rather than a formal certification or licensure. Because spiritual direction is understood as a calling rather than a regulated profession, programs focus on developing presence, listening skills, discernment, and ethical grounding rather than issuing official credentials.

During an orientation meeting with a potential spiritual director, it is appropriate to ask how they felt called to this ministry and whether they have completed any formal training. These conversations help you discern whether the director’s background, formation, and approach align with your needs.

How Are Spiritual Directors Supervised and Held Accountable?

Most spiritual directors are encouraged to follow the Guidelines for Ethical Conduct published by Spiritual Directors International (SDI):
https://www.sdicompanions.org/media/guidelines-for-ethical-conduct/

Directors typically engage in ongoing support through:

Regular supervision, either with their own spiritual director or within a peer or group supervision setting.
Personal spiritual practice and accountability, which helps them remain grounded, ethical, and attentive to the movements of Spirit.

During an orientation meeting, it is appropriate to ask whether a spiritual director is currently in an active supervisory relationship. Just as social workers and others in helping professions are expected to maintain supervision and professional maturity, spiritual directors also benefit from this reflective accountability.

At Tacheria, we believe that clergy and all those in positions of spiritual leadership should follow the ethical guidelines established by SDI. These guidelines help ensure that spiritual direction remains a safe, respectful, and sacred space for all who seek it.

What If I Don’t Click With My Spiritual Director?

Because the Great Mystery — God, Allah, the Divine — is revealed in the spiritual direction process, every experience in the relationship can become an invitation to growth. Speaking openly and honestly with your spiritual director about any challenges or discomforts can lead to insight, transformation, and deeper self-understanding.

Sometimes, however, both the director and the directee may sense that their work together has come to a natural close. When this happens, it is healthy to acknowledge the ending with intention. A final session can be a time to honor the journey you’ve shared, express gratitude, and release one another with clarity. From there, the directee can move into a new season of their spiritual life with another director who may be a better fit.

Is It Appropriate To Go To A Spiritual Director Outside My Denomination or Faith Group?

Because spiritual direction centers on a person’s lived experience of the Divine — God, the Great Mystery, Allah, Higher Power, or whatever name resonates — questions of doctrine and theology take a secondary role. The differences that often separate religious traditions matter less in spiritual direction than the shared desire to notice how Spirit is moving, guiding, and transforming one’s life.

For many people, working with a spiritual director from a different denomination or tradition can be deeply enriching. A director whose spiritual life, prayer practices, or worldview differ from your own may offer fresh perspectives and a wider sense of the sacred, as long as they are open to an interfaith or interspiritual approach. What matters most is the director’s capacity to listen, honor your path, and accompany you without imposing their beliefs.

What Is The Difference Between Spiritual Direction and Therapy?

The word therapy comes from the Greek therapia, meaning “to nurse.” By definition, a nurse offers the care needed to help restore someone to health. In this sense, psychological therapy focuses on emotional or psychological concerns that prevent a person from living as a healthy, integrated human being. Therapists are trained to address mental health symptoms, trauma, relational patterns, and other issues that require clinical skill and treatment.

Spiritual direction, by contrast, is not clinical work. It is a reflective, contemplative practice centered on a person’s relationship with the Divine — God, the Great Mystery, Higher Power — and on noticing how Spirit is moving in their life. Still, directors and directees must remain open to the reality that therapeutic work may sometimes be needed. Specific wounds, blocks, or patterns may surface during spiritual direction, and recognizing these needs is a normal and important part of the process. When both the director and directee agree that therapy would be more appropriate, the director should be prepared to make a referral and help support a smooth transition.

Confidentiality in spiritual direction should be treated with the same seriousness as in counseling or pastoral care. When appropriate boundaries are maintained, therapy and spiritual direction can occur simultaneously and can become complementary aspects of a person’s inner work — one tending to psychological healing, the other to spiritual deepening.

How Are Spiritual Directors Paid?

Because spiritual direction is a formal, professional relationship grounded in nurture, time, presence, and attentive support, it is important that the work be valued by both the director and the directee. Many people find that paying for ongoing spiritual direction deepens their sense of commitment to the process and honors the time and energy the director offers.

Payment practices vary:

Some spiritual directors set a standard fee for sessions, similar to other helping professions.
Some offer a sliding scale to accommodate different financial situations.
Others choose not to receive payment, depending on their personal discernment or ministry context.
Directors who belong to a religious community may ask that payment be made directly to their community rather than to them individually.

What matters most is clarity and mutual respect. The question of payment is typically discussed during the initial orientation meeting so that both people can enter the relationship with shared understanding and ease.